Not too long ago, a big decision stumbled into my lap. The ultimate decision (insert dramatic music here). And with as much thinking as I am capable of, I starting spinning circles. Upon the recommendation of my wonderful mother, I went to speak to a trusted friend. After that conversation took place, I was transformed by the space for thoughtful and reflective questions. One of the questions asked was,
"if you could tell yourself what to do right now, what would it be?"
My response took me by surprise, "I don't want someone to tell me 'it will be okay, you will make the right decision.' What I need to hear right now is, 'I believe in you, and I believe in whichever decision you make.'"
Belief goes deeper than making right and wrong decisions. It teaches trust in oneself. Learning this valuable lesson is beginning to transform my relationship with myself and others. Without trust in yourself and your decisions, important parts of yourself that are meant to work together begin to separate. When this separation occurs, the chaos begins. The heart and the head begin raging war against one another. The transformation from enemy to ally takes time, vulnerability and kindness.
My recommendation? Take two minutes with yourself today. Take a few breaths, listen the birds chirping or notice warmth of the sun. Let your head and heart greet one another with a gentle smile.
